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My blog, Reality Check, was inspired by Barack Obama. Athough not all my readers admire him, some keep reading anyway, for which I’m grateful. I try to keep myself out of most posts. Today is the exception. In the photo, left, I’m dancing with Martha Graham.
Erving Goffman wrote an academic best-seller, Presentation of Self in Everyday Life. He revealed that how we act depends on where we are and who we are with. I’ll try to identify who I become in varying contexts.
Before company comes, we (Liz and I) vacuum the apartment and tidy up. I close the door to my work room which is beyond tidying up.
If I go to a meeting of Dancers Over 40, I wear an Italian sport jacket, gray slacks, maroon shirt, paisley tie, to project an image of an over-the-hill but still dapper dancer.
In conversation with someone stimulating (often female), if something amusing pops into my head, out it comes. I don’t want to be too over-the-hill.
At home I allow the grouch to show. Liz seems not to mind much.
On the (few) occasions I’m invited to a rehearsal of my old troupe, I’m a hoary oracle, passing on wisdom of eras past.
At a local restaurant, I’m a neighborhood denizen who mostly orders matzo ball soup.
To the Latino clerks in the local deli, I’m the character who’s willing to show them Charleston, Suzy-Q, mambo, cha-cha, conga moves, and in return they show me meringue and salsa.
In my workroom, in front of my computer screen, I’m the writer who was put on the back-burner when hit by the unexpected, irrational, and irrepressible need to dance.
To the youngest members of my family—five to nineteen—I’m a hopelessly adoring relic from a history-book world that can capture their attention for seconds at a time.
To readers, I’m political, sentimental, angry, contemplative, and to some, mostly wrong.
To those who email, I’m a grateful recipient and always try to answer.
With my few remaining WW2 buddies, meeting via the Internet, I go back in time to a great adventure and terrible war, now cosseted in the glow of vanished youth.
On the day after Obama is reelected, Reality Check will vanish and I will return to my novel of a world millennia in the future, when earth has a total of 5 million people, they all live a thousand years, each spiritually bonded with a sentient tree, and God has been mathematically proven to exist.